Do you often hear yourself saying this: “That person used me up dry?” Or “she got what she wanted, and so she dumped me.”?
This is truly a sad statement coming from an individual who believes that he is a pleasant person who gives his best for his relationships to work.
That feeling of being used up dry does not just demotivate people; it also decapitates them from their lives.
That feeling of being dumped after being taken advantage of does not just leave the person feeling shit; it also could make the person want nothing but to simply expire (to die).
Hey, you! Yes, I am talking to you.
What has happened to you?
I’d love to know how and what happened to that you now feel so sorry about yourself.
= u know what? = = = = = u r not alone.
Let me share with you the story of my client, Nation (not his real name), who has had the greatest “aha” moment after spending 2.5 hours chatting with me over masala tea
Nation, is a senior executive man working for a global I.T. Company. He’s been leading a number of men and women in his global team. As a leader, he gives out his best to support his team - making him the most pleasant, popular, and valued team player.
In his personal life, Nation loves to host and welcome people into his home. He comes with invaluable knowledge about food, music, and culture. He loves vintage cars - and he owns a couple of them. He also loves to talk.
Nation, hit the lowest low of his life. He said, between 0 - 10, his energy barometer was 2.
He felt:
Unappreciated Used up Dried out Left out Neglected Taken advantaged Belittled Shamed Dumped to nothing
Which made him:
Isolate Disconnect Withdraw Cold Overly sensitive Dwell on pessimism
And yet, at work, he continues to put up a very capable and confident face.
In short, he’s clowning.
Yes, he’s clowning to himself. Each day, as he gets out from work, he turns into a couch potato - drowning himself with food and waiting to explode.
He said, “It’s no longer fun, Nowena… the scene where you catch yourself smiling but you feel shit inside? That’s how I feel.
Nation, has been divorced 3x.
“Those women left me when they all got what they wanted. When I was of no use to them, they F..k around.”
= = = = so what’s the aha moment?= =
I asked him 3 questions:
1. How are you feeling? 2. What was it that you want? 3. What’s waiting for you?
By simply walking him back into his alignment with himself, he found his eureka moment
After 2.5 hours of going through the resume of his life, Nation, consciously made a decision to focus his full attention to:
1. Knowing his feelings 2. Knowing what he wants 3. Knowing what’s waiting for him.
Because KNOWING is the after-effects of being conscious and being aware of what’s going on in your life.
= be conscious = be aware = lead your dream life.
Connect to the person that you are. Listen to the voice within you. Tap into the awareness of yourself.
Have a pleasant Saturday, everyone!
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