Please do not touch” often carries a much deeper meaning for someone like me, who in the past has been grappling with PTSD.
It’s not just a request to keep a physical distance; it’s an expression of emotional chasm that’s grown within.
Seeing this Halloween mascot today reminded me of how trauma made it agonisingly challenging to express what’s truly in my heart, creating a barrier of numbness that’s been my shield.
I remember how I have struggled:
When I said, “Please do not touch,” what I truly meant was, “I miss you; please spend more time with me.”
It’s an unspoken plea for connection and understanding, a silent cry to bridge the gap between the emotional detachment I have cultivated for safety and the longing for the warmth of human connection.
Supporting a loved one with PTSD can be a challenging but crucial role. When your loved one says, “Please do not touch” or “Please leave me alone,” it’s a sign that they might need some space or time to cope with their feelings.
Here are some suggestions on how to provide support without distancing yourself:
• Respect their space. It’s not a rejection of you but a way to cope with their emotions. • Communicate your support. Reassure them of your unwavering support and love. • Educate yourself. Understanding the condition helps. • Encourage professional help. A trained therapist can provide the necessary tools for recovery. • Be patient. Avoid pushing them to open up or get over it. • Offer practical assistance. • Self-care. Remember to take care of yourself and make it your priority. • Be a good listener. Be there to hear their feelings and experiences; avoid offering unsolicited advice. • Avoid triggers. Learn about their triggers and do your best to avoid or minimise them. • Support group. Sharing experiences with others who have similar struggles can be very helpful.
Remember that your loved one may go through phases of withdrawal and distress, but your consistent support and understanding can make a significant difference in their healing process. The most important thing is to let them know that you are there for them, no matter what, and you're willing to walk alongside them on their journey to recovery.
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